I should not try to change you

They say that one should never try to change their other half.

I do agree. After all, isn't the initial man the one I fell for?

As they go on together, we find that change is all around

Do we, then, change?

I believe that mutual understanding is very important

if we are to plan the rest of our lives together,

we need to work out what we need to change together.

Not what one party alone need to change.

If moving ahead and making decisions is done by only one party, how then should the other support?

blindly?

I don't really think I would be helping if i support him blindly.

I cannot foresee the future, but i can tell the difference between a rational and irrational decision.

Wanting to bear everything does not make a boy a man.

Learning to listen and share is.

he is everything good. he cares, shares, listens, loves, respects, is faithful etc.

but the opposite shows when the foul mood arises.

nothing goes in and debates starts

a hole burns in this relationship and we need to spend time to mend it

I can only pray that we grow stronger and not weaker from these.

What is mutual understanding in a relationship?

Love is a strong attraction between the man and the woman. Usually when they have love they want to create a family. At first they don’t even think if they are compatible or not. They love each other. And then it occurs that there is a problem, the problem of mutual understanding of two opposite sexes, usually it happens when the family is created.

All classifications are to define if two types of personality are compatible with each other or not.
However if you have got to know what kind of a person you need, you should not find such a person and get married with him/her at once. Because the key rule of personal psychological compatibility sounds like this: no rules are present here.
Basically it is possible to tell that all types can be both perfectly compatible, and absolutely unaccommodating. It also depends, except results of testing, on many other things. It is said that compatibility is when people are similar. A woman loves to communicate and her partner likes the same, he would like to have a rest on the nature and she doesn’t mind too, they both like to sit in the silence, enjoying each other with no words. They also like identical dishes, kinds of music, and their views on life are identical. Will it be forever? At first, yes. But then they will have problems in relations for sure.

There is another type of “compatibility”. A man says – a woman listens up to him, a woman solves – a man performs, one orders – another submits. It is good only from the first sight. Quarrels can begin because they have different views on life.

If you have grown fond of someone and suddenly you find out that your second half is not compatible as to the type of personality you need, cheer up! All types of the personality can get on, if they know features of each other and secondly, if they consider right what is positive in the partner, and what is negative, and thirdly – the most important thing! – If there is a mutual desire to get on, otherwise, readiness for the certain compromise, then everything will be just fine. It is important to accept another such as he/ she is, and not to hope that in marriage you will manage to alter her/him. It will not be possible. If something obstinately and actively is not pleasant to you – do not marry better at all.
And in general we can add that no matter what type of personality you have and no matter if you are compatible according to it, if you don’t love and respect each other, you will not have a strong and happy family. And on the contrary – if you are absolutely incompatible according to a science, but really both wish to be together – you will be able to do it. The only thing is you have to learn how to live together, but not to alter the inside world of each other